10 Ways Couples Can Put the THANKS in Thanksgiving

Posted by: Shel Harrington 23 Comments

10 Ways for Couples to Put the THANKS in ThanksgivingWith Thanksgiving as its finale, November is a great month to focus on the many people and things there are to be thankful for in our lives. The great food is just a bonus! If you and your spouse want to put the “Thanks” in Thanksgiving this year, here are 10 suggestions to get you started.

1. Send a Thank You note to someone who has affected your marriage. Is there a couple who set a fine marital example? A friend or relative that was supportive during a tough time? Send them a hand-written thank you note letting them know they made a difference.

2. Double tip – or triple tip. Let that food-server in your local diner know their service is appreciated and valued by going beyond the current ‘obligatory’ percentage with your tip. Breakfast servers often are up the earliest, hustling the most, and pulling in the least in tips. Just having coffee? Watch a face light up when you leave some bills instead of change as a thank-you.

3. Add a note to the tip jar. This isn’t instead of a tip, mind you. But if you’re at a place that has a tip jar out for counter service and you have something nice to say about your waitperson or the establishment, jot a note letting them know and put it in the tip jar with your cash tip.

4. Serve any day but Thanksgiving. Show your appreciation to a local shelter or ‘soup kitchen’ for the service they provide to the community by helping out.  Some years back my husband was out of town for Christmas and I was alone. I decided to help serve the holiday meal at a shelter. Feeling virtuous, I called the shelter to let them know the good news – that I would be gifting them with my services. They weren’t nearly as impressed as I was. While such places need holiday help, many offer on those days – I actually heard the words “twice-a-year-do-gooders” uttered by a staffer. Often there are shortages of help at the beginning of the month (because people are saving their good deed for the holiday) or the Monday after – when everyone is good deeded out.

5. Place a potted chrysanthemum on your neighbor’s porch. Often we don’t interact with our neighbors other than to wave as we’re coming and going. ‘Good neighbors’ don’t have to be friends – they can be the person who let UPS leave your package at their house, the ones that brought your dog back when it got out of the fence, or the one who is respectful about only playing their drums before 7:00 p.m. Let them know they are appreciated.

6. Praise publicly. Give the waitperson who did a good job, a special teacher, your pastor, an inspiring community member a shout-out on Facebook or write a note to their employer. My husband and I were once in a Best Buy waiting a ridiculous amount of time to get help with buying a computer. A staffer heard us talking (read: grumbling) about the wait, apologized for it and spent the next half  hour getting us connected to all the right product. When we checked out, the clerk ringing us up asked our helper what he was doing there on his day off. His day off? We wrote his supervisor a letter saying how impressive it was that an employee thought enough of his employer to protect their reputation in such a way and how helpful that young man had been. A week later we made another trip back to Best Buy. There, in their front entrance, was a framed picture of our helper with a banner that proclaimed him Employee of the Month.

7. Require thanks before the food. If you are hosting a dinner during the month, have a small paper and pencil by each place setting. Maybe printed out acorns or leaves? Instruct each guest to write down 3 things they are grateful for prior to eating. After everybody has been served go around the table and have each read their list. Allow discussion between the reads if it evolves.

8. Send someone a list of reasons you are grateful for them in your life. If it is a family member, divide the list to reflect both the natural relationship and the in-law relationship. With all the in-law jokes that abound, how nice for a mother-in-law/father-in-law/whoever-in-law to know the positive is celebrated.

9. Give them what they admire. Has somebody special in your life admired something you own? Is it an appropriate thing to gift to them? Years back when my parents downsized during a move, they gave us a lovely milk glass creamer and sugar set that I was fond of. One of my best friends admired it on a visit. She happens to have an interesting milk glass collection. She was delighted to later receive it as a gift – she appreciated the history of the objects as well as their beauty. And frankly, they looked better sitting on shelves in her living room with milk glass cousins than they did in our cupboard.

10. Gift the one who doesn’t get gifts. We often think to gift people we interact with regularly – our hair stylist, a colleague, a teacher. But what about the receptionist at the salon, the colleagues’ assistant who often helps out, a librarian, the janitors, the ‘lunch ladies’? Drop off a little something to that person who is often overlooked – letting them know they are indeed seen and appreciated.

Please add to the list of how couples can put the THANKS into Thanksgiving in the comment section below.

Related: The 30-Day Gratitude Challenge

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23 Comments

  • GREAT post! The one about serving on a different day than Thanksgiving really spoke to me! Some wonderful other ideas as well!

    • Shel Harrington

      Yah – that one spoke to me, too – literally! Thanks for stopping by, Katie!

  • Thanks for visiting Bloggy Mountain Breakdown. I thought I would visit your blog, too. I love it, I admire the look and topics. I am the Director of Adult Ministries at a church and your thanksgiving post is an excellent resource. cm

    • Shel Harrington

      Thanks for checking it out, Cindy! I’m delighted that the Thanksgiving post will be shared. I hope to see more of you on Bloggy Mountain as well as (hopefully) at future Oklahoma Women Blogger meet-ups!

  • Heather Ezell

    Thanks for the GREAT tips and invaluable advice!

    • Shel Harrington

      De nada.Thank YOU for stopping by, Heather! Enjoy the rest of your weekend.

  • Shel Harrington

    He definitely deserved it! I was delighted to see his picture – and reminded again that the joy of ‘giving’ can be more powerful than the joy in receiving. Both are pretty darn fun!

  • Great list, Shel. I love, love, love your Best Buy story. That’s going above and beyond, for sure. So glad y’all helped him get recognized for his efforts.

  • I am all about this terrific 12- I have seen true gratitude in action and it has such an impact! Thank YOU for the great ideas.

    • Shel Harrington

      Thank YOU for AFFIRMING the benefits of gratitude, Dr. Marotta!

  • Shel, as you know, one of my most prized possessions was an unexpected gift from your parents when they sent the religious wood carved saint. I always am thankful to them for their “random act of kindness”. Love this blog, such great inspirational ideas!

    • Shel Harrington

      I had forgotten about that, Kevyn! I’ll pass on your comments – it will make them feel good all over again!

  • I got some great inspirations from this one, Shel. I especially like #4…so very true! Like Dee Dee, I’m printing and posting for future reminders!

  • Diane

    Great list Shel, thanks for the great idea’s.

  • This is such a great post, Shel. I love giving thanks to people when they least expect it. When I receive excellent customer service whether on the phone or at the grocery store, I always let their manager know what a wonderful employee they have. The managers are often shocked by my phone call or in person compliment because they’re so used to getting complaints. One manager once told me, I was the first people in his 2 years at the store to give a compliment. He felt good and so did I. 🙂

    • Shel Harrington

      It does feel good to take time to pass on a compliment, doesn’t it? When I saw that young man’s picture up as “Employee of the Month” I felt like I’d been given a gift. A lovely reminder of how little time it takes to make a difference for somebody else.

  • Great list, Shel. I’m very thankful you posted it and plan to put some of these suggestions into action.

  • Great list, Shel. I’m very thankful you posted it and plan to put some of these suggestions into action.

  • Shel, this is a great blog with ten wonderful ideas on acting out your thankfulness. Thank you for the post.

    DiAne Gates

    • Shel Harrington

      Sure appreciate your kind words, DiAne. Have a great weekend!

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