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Children of Divorce – 5 Things Parents Should Never Say

Listening to children about how they feel as their parents go through divorce – and afterward – is very important. We need to hear them. Not only their words, but read their demeanor. And we have to remember how well they can hear us. How they can read between the lines to what’s really being...

Divorce Through a Child’s Eyes

I’ve talked to many children whose parents are going through divorce. I often serve as a guardian ad litem for children – a cross between an attorney for the children and an arm of the court charged with the task of investigating a divorce matter in order to make recommendations to the judge regarding custody...

Testifying in Family Court? 5 Things NOT to Say

There are whole books on testifying in court. There are numerous articles about what to say, what to wear, and how to behave. But there are also things that should NOT be said during testimony – especially in Family Court. Following are my top five things not to say in Family Court. 1. “To tell...

ALIMONY 101

In the olden days, couples got divorced and the man paid alimony – it was a given. Flash forward a few decades. Now there are criteria the judge explores before awarding alimony – if alimony is even going to be awarded. And yet, many still think that spousal support (another name for alimony) is going...

5 Things to Take With You to Family Court

Thursday’s list of what not to take to Family Court may have left thinking you should show up to the big event empty-handed. Not so! There are a few things you can take with you to court that will make you more comfortable – or at least less uncomfortable. Following are five suggestions. 1. Communication...

8 Things to Leave at Home When You Go to Family Court

Appearing in Family Court can be a nerve-wracking experience. Our focus is on what we want to tell the judge, what others might say, and how things will turn out. It’s easy to forget details that can matter – like showing up with things that won’t help your case. Following is a list of 8...

5 Myths About Divorce

            I spend a lot of time debunking myths about divorce from callers who have gotten bad information from a myriad of sources. Sometimes it’s a poorly written article or folklore. Often it’s from a well-meaning friend/relative/acquaintance who had a bad experience or dealt with a different fact pattern in their own divorce. Here are...

10 Ways to Impress Your Family Law Judge

Your family law attorney has given you plenty of tips about how to behave in court – keep your cool, let him do the talking unless you are asked a question, dress conservatively. Really? How is that mundane behavior going to get the judge to notice you? And if she doesn’t notice you, however will...

Take the BAT out of the BATTLE

The divorce is on. Not what you had planned when you said “I do” way back when. The hostility has grown to the point of avoiding even being in the same room together, let alone actually speaking to each other. Every communication takes multiple steps as it is relayed and translated through attorneys. Costs are...

How to Find a Divorce Lawyer

           Unless you have been married about five minutes, have no children, assets, or debts together, you first need to know how not to find a divorce attorney.  You should not call: The attorney who has a sign staked to the side of the road which screams “Cheap Divorce” followed by a number. “Cheap” should...

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