The Annual Marriage Assessment – 11 Questions to Get You Started
The beginning of a new year is often a time for evaluation, assessing, and planning for the upcoming twelve months. We analyze things like our health, our spiritual direction, our priorities, our careers and set goals regarding what we would like to do different, better, or not at all. Let’s not forget our marriage in this annual assessment!
The beginning of the year is a great time to review the past year of marriage to assess what we did right, what is not working, what we can do better, what changes we can make to improve our marriage, and what goals we can work together to accomplish over the next year. Here are 11 questions to get you started.
To Answer as a couple:
Is there anybody in your life that is not supportive of your marriage or tries to undermine your relationship that you should consider limiting contact with this year?
Do you need to cultivate some couple friends this year who have positive attitudes about marriage to interact with?
What’s the single most important thing you could do to improve your marriage this year?
What’s the most important decision you need to make together this year?
What is the biggest obligation you feel needs to be met this year?
What area of your lives most need simplifying and what is one thing you could do to accomplish that?
If one or both of you need to get healthier, what is one change you could both support making to move toward that goal?
What is your biggest financial goal and what is one thing you could do this year to move closer to that goal?
For each spouse to answer individually:
If there is a time-waster activity that gets in the way of spending time with your spouse, what can you do about it this year?
What can you do to encourage/uplift your spouse on a regular basis this year?
What one change can you make that would help you be a better husband or wife this year?
Whether we are already amazing or working toward getting there, it’s easy to get caught up in the New Year changes we want to make to be better individuals. Make sure you spend at least, if not more, energy and effort with your spouse to determine what you can do to enhance your already-amazing (or on-its-way-to-amazing) marriage in the upcoming year!