The best thing you can do for your spouse and your marriage in the New Year takes less than one minute a day. And it costs nothing. It’s such a little thing, that you won’t believe what a huge impact it will have – until it does! Are you ready to hear what it is? (Insert imaginary drumroll here). Get a pad, notebook, or journal and every day this year write down one good thing about your spouse. That’s it – there are no other rules. The good thing can be something about their person, their personality, their character, something they did, something they said, how they made you feel, etc. – the possibilities are endless!
Make it easy on yourself to incorporate this new habit into your daily routine by leaving your little notebook next to something you already use daily – such as a toothbrush. Or set your phone to alert you at a particular time each day.
Full disclosure: there may be days when this simple act seems difficult. We all run into times where our schedules get crazy-busy. Or – let’s just put it out there – times when we don’t feel like saying something nice about the spouse we may be angry/annoyed/other-sentiment with. Do it anyway. Pushing through on those days will increase the return on your daily marriage mini-investment.
Spoiler alert: You may find yourself going through your day making note of nice things about your spouse so you have something to write down that day – things you may not have taken much note of prior. This is fun stuff! The kind of stuff that helps put the ‘happy’ in a very Happy New Year!
For more ideas on marriage-enhancing spouse-celebrating New Year options, check out what it means to have a “jar moment” and Resolutions for Couples (bonus: none have the word “weight!”)
Great idea! Think I may actually DO this one…
Lol – me, too!
Great idea. I am going to do it!!
Glad to hear that, Beth – Happy New Year!
That’s a great idea! I know it will give us each a greater appreciation for our spouse and thus increase our ability to ???? love! It will also enable us to more quickly see the good in others around us as well!
Well-said, Linda! Happy New Year!