Here in Oklahoma we just observed the one year anniversary of the devastating tornado that plowed through Moore last year. All over the country, many are dealing with the utter destruction of wildfires, hurricanes, mudslides, floods and other natural disasters.
Take this opportunity to put things in perspective. To do so, grab a piece of paper and a pen.
Imagine this scene: the TV newscaster is describing weather conditions that could turn violent at any second. His voice gets louder and louder. He’s shouting that the elements are wreaking havoc along their path. You hear panic in his voice. He names your location and screams: “You have 5 minutes to get out – ONLY 5 MINUTES TO GET OUT!”
Now write down the answer to this question: What do you take with you?
Mentally look back in time and think about any object or material possession that caused contention between you and your spouse. The hotly contested sofa that you prevailed on, the carpet that you cover with plastic to keep pristine, that table lamp you had to have when your spouse wanted to get overhead lighting, the big-screen TV that cost more than your spouse was comfortable spending. Is any of it on your list?
Chances are your list contains people, pets, photos, precious mementos from loved ones. Why? Because that’s what is important to you. That’s what is precious to you. That’s all that really matters in the large scheme of life. Your life.
We all have to have stuff. Without stuff in our homes, we’d have nowhere to sit, nowhere to lay, nothing to read. Stuff is important. Stuff can be fun. But the next time you and your spouse are at odds about household items, check your list. Is it precious? Or is it just stuff?