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Divorce Through a Child’s Eyes

I’ve talked to many children whose parents are going through divorce. I often serve as a guardian ad litem for children – a cross between an attorney for the children and an arm of the court charged with the task of investigating a divorce matter in order to make recommendations to the judge regarding custody...

The Power of a Compliment

Recently I was one of two speakers at a luncheon program. Later that afternoon, I received an email from my co-speaker – a professional whom I admire –  that started out: “You’re wonderful!” The writer added a couple of lines about the highlights of my presentation contribution. While I don’t consider myself wonderful, I certainly...

Keeping Secrets

I was keeping a secret from my husband, Steve, and it was starting to wear on me. Having to watch what I said, not meeting the eyes of another who was alluding to it in front of him. And it wasn’t even my secret. But I had agreed to keep it. As constrained and burdened...

Conscious Uncoupling? Gimme a Break, Gwyneth Paltrow!

Conscious uncoupling? What? Are we talking about train cars here? Apparently not. Apparently ‘conscious uncoupling’ is a gentle, lovely term for an often chaotic, unlovely life situation. Divorce. But if we use unemotional words, maybe we can convince ourselves that this is an unemotional event, nobody will get hurt, and all will live happily ever...

How to Get Rich – Without Money

Stuff is not evil. Everybody needs stuff. Even minimalists have some stuff. But how much stuff you have is not a measure of how rich your are. The secret to getting rich is to identify your wealth – then appreciate it and give it the value it’s due. Let’s get started assessing your wealth. 1.Think...

Marital Bingo

If you’re looking for a Valentine’s Day gift for your spouse that has a little more entertainment value than a bouquet of flowers, how about trying some Marital Bingo? Here’s how it works: You both list 24 things  you would like the other to do. Vary the list by including some that can be done...

Happy Anniversary!

Thanks for stopping by to help me celebrate my first anniversary! It’s been quite a year. My husband  and I lost precious loved ones, dealt with (and beat) cancer, dealt with other health issues and life challenges during this past year – as so many of you are doing. And through it all we continued to...

8 Things to Leave at Home When You Go to Family Court

Appearing in Family Court can be a nerve-wracking experience. Our focus is on what we want to tell the judge, what others might say, and how things will turn out. It’s easy to forget details that can matter – like showing up with things that won’t help your case. Following is a list of 8...

5 Myths About Divorce

            I spend a lot of time debunking myths about divorce from callers who have gotten bad information from a myriad of sources. Sometimes it’s a poorly written article or folklore. Often it’s from a well-meaning friend/relative/acquaintance who had a bad experience or dealt with a different fact pattern in their own divorce. Here are...

Prenuptial Agreements – Planning to Fail or Failing to Plan?

            The topic of prenuptial agreements can be divisive. Whether called prenuptial agreement, ante-nuptial agreement, or marital agreement, it is actually a contract entered into by the bride and groom to-be prior to marriage to set forth terms regarding property and/or alimony issues in the event of divorce or death.             Does it seem counter-intuitive...

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