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5 Unique Ways to Share a Compliment

Hopefully The Power of a Compliment was a helpful reminder to celebrate your spouse with words of praise. Telling them directly is one great way to do it. But it’s not the only way. Want something a little more creative? Try one (or more!) of the five options below! 1. Answer the question. When Facebook...

The Power of a Compliment

Recently I was one of two speakers at a luncheon program. Later that afternoon, I received an email from my co-speaker – a professional whom I admire –  that started out: “You’re wonderful!” The writer added a couple of lines about the highlights of my presentation contribution. While I don’t consider myself wonderful, I certainly...

Keeping Secrets

I was keeping a secret from my husband, Steve, and it was starting to wear on me. Having to watch what I said, not meeting the eyes of another who was alluding to it in front of him. And it wasn’t even my secret. But I had agreed to keep it. As constrained and burdened...

7 Ways to Spring Clean Your Marriage

When the first crocus peeps through the snow we start looking forward to the freshness of spring. Windows  get opened and many of us get that itch. Out with the old, in with new – it’s spring cleaning time! What spring cleaning does for our homes – freshening, organizing, lightening up – it can do...

Conscious Uncoupling? Gimme a Break, Gwyneth Paltrow!

Conscious uncoupling? What? Are we talking about train cars here? Apparently not. Apparently ‘conscious uncoupling’ is a gentle, lovely term for an often chaotic, unlovely life situation. Divorce. But if we use unemotional words, maybe we can convince ourselves that this is an unemotional event, nobody will get hurt, and all will live happily ever...

Pursuing Your Spouse – Again

Remember the passion that came with dating? How you exerted great effort to impress your mate? How wonderful you felt when what you did caused this special person to smile? If your relationship is feeling a bit flat – or before it does – mentally review your past. Then vow to recreate it – on...

Laudable Listening

Part of my job is interviewing people – clients, witnesses, experts, children. In an attempt to move the conversation along to the part where I can be helpful, I am often tempted to go all Jack Webb on people  (just the facts, ma’am, just the facts). But I have learned hurrying people along, rushing their...

Excuse Me While I Interrupt

There are good interruptions. Such as: “We interrupt this commercial to give you great news.” Or when the bleeding of a wound is interrupted by the wound being staunched – a life-saving interruption. But many interruptions are just plain rude. And while rude is rarely good, it’s even worse when directed at our spouse –...

Celebrate GOOD DEEDS DAY on March 9

The seventh annual Good Deed Day is being celebrated on March 9, 2014. This international event was started in 2007 to encourage people to  focus on good and do good in simple ways – in the form of a ‘good deed.’ And what a wonderful response has resulted! To read about the story and mission...

Are You Wearing a Mask in Your Relationship?

Fat Tuesday. Some are putting on masks and wrapping themselves in beads to appear happy or mysterious. Some of the masks are beautiful. But they’re temporary. They’re decoration. They’re an illusion. Somebody presenting themself differently than who they are. Masks can be fun for a short time. We look different. Which sometimes makes us momentarily...

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