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Divorce Through a Child’s Eyes

I’ve talked to many children whose parents are going through divorce. I often serve as a guardian ad litem for children – a cross between an attorney for the children and an arm of the court charged with the task of investigating a divorce matter in order to make recommendations to the judge regarding custody...

7 Ways to Spring Clean Your Marriage

When the first crocus peeps through the snow we start looking forward to the freshness of spring. Windows  get opened and many of us get that itch. Out with the old, in with new – it’s spring cleaning time! What spring cleaning does for our homes – freshening, organizing, lightening up – it can do...

Testifying in Family Court? 5 Things NOT to Say

There are whole books on testifying in court. There are numerous articles about what to say, what to wear, and how to behave. But there are also things that should NOT be said during testimony – especially in Family Court. Following are my top five things not to say in Family Court. 1. “To tell...

Happy Anniversary!

Thanks for stopping by to help me celebrate my first anniversary! It’s been quite a year. My husband  and I lost precious loved ones, dealt with (and beat) cancer, dealt with other health issues and life challenges during this past year – as so many of you are doing. And through it all we continued to...

ALIMONY 101

In the olden days, couples got divorced and the man paid alimony – it was a given. Flash forward a few decades. Now there are criteria the judge explores before awarding alimony – if alimony is even going to be awarded. And yet, many still think that spousal support (another name for alimony) is going...

Christmas Stocking Stuffers for $5 or Less – the 5-Day Stocking-Stuffer Extravaganza!

  WELCOME TO THE 5-DAY CHRISTMAS STOCKING-STUFFER EXTRAVAGANZA! With all the mini-mystery packages and unexpected surprises, Christmas stockings were a fun part of childhood Christmases. Want to recapture some of that childhood awe and magic of the holiday season? Bigger is not always better. All gifts don’t have to be ‘mature.’ Make a date with...

Is Snooping on Your Spouse OK?

Some will automatically respond: “Absolutely not – that is an invasion of privacy that marriage doesn’t overcome.” Others, just as quickly, will answer; “Of course it’s okay – there shouldn’t be secrets between spouses.” I think the answer is a firm: “Hmmm – it depends.” Being married does not entitle us to know every thought,...

5 Things to Take With You to Family Court

Thursday’s list of what not to take to Family Court may have left thinking you should show up to the big event empty-handed. Not so! There are a few things you can take with you to court that will make you more comfortable – or at least less uncomfortable. Following are five suggestions. 1. Communication...

8 Things to Leave at Home When You Go to Family Court

Appearing in Family Court can be a nerve-wracking experience. Our focus is on what we want to tell the judge, what others might say, and how things will turn out. It’s easy to forget details that can matter – like showing up with things that won’t help your case. Following is a list of 8...

5 Myths About Divorce

            I spend a lot of time debunking myths about divorce from callers who have gotten bad information from a myriad of sources. Sometimes it’s a poorly written article or folklore. Often it’s from a well-meaning friend/relative/acquaintance who had a bad experience or dealt with a different fact pattern in their own divorce. Here are...

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