5 Things to Take With You to Family Court
Thursday’s list of what not to take to Family Court may have left thinking you should show up to the big event empty-handed. Not so! There are a few things you can take with you to court that will make you more comfortable – or at least less uncomfortable. Following are five suggestions. 1. Communication...
8 Things to Leave at Home When You Go to Family Court
Appearing in Family Court can be a nerve-wracking experience. Our focus is on what we want to tell the judge, what others might say, and how things will turn out. It’s easy to forget details that can matter – like showing up with things that won’t help your case. Following is a list of 8...
Behold Me Busy
We’re so busy we don’t have time for each other. Oh, we carve out moments here and there, but we must be quick because we have a slew of other matters waiting for our all-important attention. We quickly listen to each other, but we don’t hear. We lob information to the other that is never...
20 Things You Should Not Say to Your Spouse (part 2)
We covered the things husbands should not say to wives on Wednesday, but I sure don’t want to leave the wives out! 10 Things Wives Should Not Say to Their Husbands 1. You’re not doing it right. Translation: you’re not doing it the way I do it. This is a fast-track to getting a personal...
20 Things You Should Not Say to Your Spouse (Part 1)
Words are powerful tools that can be used to lift our mates up and celebrate our unions. They can also be vicious weapons more cutting than the sharpest saber. Used thoughtlessly they can create unintended conflict. To help avoid some of that conflict, I’ve put together a collection of statements that should not be uttered...
5 Painless Ways to Save Money for Some Marital Bliss
Two major marital stressors are finances and spouses not spending enough meaningful time together. We keep getting advice to date our mates or take little getaways to reconnect and celebrate the relationship – but that costs money. And our money is already spoken for. But if we don’t find a way to finance a little...
5 Myths About Divorce
I spend a lot of time debunking myths about divorce from callers who have gotten bad information from a myriad of sources. Sometimes it’s a poorly written article or folklore. Often it’s from a well-meaning friend/relative/acquaintance who had a bad experience or dealt with a different fact pattern in their own divorce. Here are...
Social Media and Marriage – the Good, the Bad, and Even Some Ugly
With internet and easy access to computers, we have a plethora of ways to communicate that didn’t exist prior – Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, and a bunch of other means that those of you with teenagers know the names of. Social media has brought together people who would not have otherwise met, reconnected people who...
5 Fun Ways to Surprise Your Mate
It’s so easy to take the one we love for granted. We go through our busy days doing what we usually do and expecting our mate to do what they usually do. One way to keep things fresh and let your mate know you appreciate them is to put a surprise in their day....
How To Tell Your Mate The Truth – Honesty vs. Just Plain Mean
‘Brutal’ and ‘honesty’ don’t have to go together. Being truthful should not be synonymous with being mean. With that in mind, how do we answer those difficult questions from our spouses? The questions on topics that you know your mate is sensitive about? And yet the questions call for, and your spouse deserves, honest...