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7 Behaviors Couples Should Avoid

We’ve all encountered that couple – the one that makes everyone uncomfortable with the way they interact with each other in public. Something they do has us looking away or pretending not to hear. They are the couple least likely to be invited back. Don’t be that couple. Avoid these seven behaviors – so others...

GIFT YOUR SPOUSE PEACE OF MIND – Making a Will and other Important Stuff

We often spend more time talking about what we should do than it takes to actually do it. Most of us don’t want to even think about what would happen in the event of a crisis or our death let alone plan for it. A potential consequence of ignoring the inevitable is compounded grief for...

5 Ways to Stop the Fight Before It Starts

Our last chat was about strategies to win that marital spat if things weren’t going your way. But is there really a winner when spouses argue? The best fight you can have with your mate is the one that doesn’t get started. Here are 5 ways to change the course of a discussion that’s headed...

Marriage Spats - 7 Winning Strategies
The Marital Spat – 7 Winning Strategies

  Many marriage experts will tell you to ‘fight fair’ when arguing with your mate. But where’s the fun in that? How can you be the winner if you’re busy focusing on how your spouse is feeling or the long term effects? Here are 7 great strategies to help you be the winner of that marital...

Calling All Spouses: The 30-Day Gratitude Challenge Update

Those of you participating in the 30-Day Gratitude Challenge have either passed the half-way point or are very close to it, depending on when you started. (If you haven’t started yet, it’s not too late – there’s no bad time to get started!) We surpassed our goal of 100 people making a firm commitment to...

What to Say – and What NOT to Say – When They Tell You They Have Cancer

So many of us don’t know what to do or say when we find out someone we care about has cancer. My ongoing experience with breast cancer has given me an opportunity to find out first hand what was helpful, and what not. Before I get to my list of what NOT to say to...

Why I’m Coming Out Of The Cancer Closet

Earlier this year I was diagnosed with Invasive Lobular Breast Cancer. There was no anger, no “why me?” I went straight to self-blame and a list of what I didn’t want. I didn’t want people to know. I didn’t want people who love me to hurt. I didn’t want to be called a ‘cancer victim.’...

Calling All Spouses: The 30-Day Gratitude Challenge

Remember the ‘Gratitude Journal?’ It made it’s debut 10-15 years ago on a popular talk show. It was a simple concept: each day write down things you are grateful for. I didn’t buy the official Gratitude Journal and I don’t remember if there were official rules, but my take was to write down five things every day...

5 Lessons I Learned Early in Marriage

My husband gets me. We get each other. He would never buy me anything baby blue or pastel pink to wear. I wouldn’t gift him silk pajamas. If he sees a movie before me, I ask him if I would like it – confidant that his response will serve me well. I am his personal...

Is Snooping on Your Spouse OK?

Some will automatically respond: “Absolutely not – that is an invasion of privacy that marriage doesn’t overcome.” Others, just as quickly, will answer; “Of course it’s okay – there shouldn’t be secrets between spouses.” I think the answer is a firm: “Hmmm – it depends.” Being married does not entitle us to know every thought,...

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