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Married With Gratitude – a 30-Day Challenge!

November is a great month to be intentional about expressing your appreciation for the dearest person in your life. We say ‘thank-you’ to our spouses throughout the year for specific actions and do little nice things on occasion “just because.” As we should! But how often in between those moments are we taking them for...

7 Common Mistakes Married Couples Make

Little changes can have big impact. Case in point: You write a lovely note to somebody you like and tell them how pretty they are. Except you accidentally leave out the ‘r’ in pretty. Such a little mistake. Such a big difference in how your letter is received! Here are some common mistakes that married...

How to Get Along With Your Spouse – 5 Simple Tips

Want to get along with your spouse better? Here are 5 simple tips that can help – from the divorce lawyer who doesn’t like divorce!     BONUS!  

10 Car Habits That Make Your Mate a Defensive Driver

In spite of being told over and over that we ‘shouldn’t sweat the small stuff,’ that’s exactly what what many of us do. And it’s those petty things that seem to cause the biggest rifts between spouses. Having previously discussed annoying bathroom habits that can drain a marriage and obnoxious kitchen habits that can bring...

Deadhead Your Marriage

First of all, to spare potential disappointment, I want you to know from the get-go this has nothing to do with the Grateful Dead. So if you thought I was going to help you talk your spouse into taking a retro adventure, uh . . . sorry. Let’s talk about my backyard. I took a...

101 Things to Say to Make Your Mate Feel Great!

Do you want to make your mate feel great? Here are 101 things to say to do just that! 1. You make me feel special. 2. You still make my heart go pitter-patter! 3. You’re hot! 4. I know you have my back. 5. I continue to learn from you. 6. Your smile lights my...

Destruction That’s Good for Marriage

Competition between spouses can be fun, energizing and healthy for the marriage. Keeping score to determine who won at golf, racquetball, scrabble, or a favorite video game makes absolute sense. Keeping score in other areas of marriage does not. But isn’t that just what we do? I’ve taken out the trash the last three times!...

Laugh for longer marriage
Laugh Your Way to a Longer Marriage

Laugh, and the world laughs with you. More importantly, your spouse laughs with you. Just the words giggle, chuckle and chortle probably make you smile. Take it bigger with mirthful glee or bubbling laughter. Or over the top with a loud guffaw. Whether small, medium or large, laughter is good stuff! Making your spouse laugh...

9 Kitchen Habits that Cook Up Trouble in Your Marriage

I have already warned you how what happens in the bathroom – those little annoying habits that crop up – can harm a marriage. But annoying your spouse in the kitchen could be even more dangerous – there’s knives there! It’s often the little things that cause the biggest spats. Here are nine of those...

Friday Five Roundup

Want to surprise your mate? Or hear a few painless ways to save a little money to be splurged on marital bliss? Wonder if that ‘truism’ you heard about divorce is really true? Want to stop an argument before it really gets going? Or maybe you’re just looking for a way to make you mate...